Jonas, I can relate to your situation. For wanting to be likes and not be considered a ‘bad guy’ I have often let myself be pushed over and walked and trampled upon. And the ones I supposedly helped weren’t even sympathetic or grateful! I am all for carefully arranged boundaries and stepping stones, and making them clear to all around you.
But on a less serious note, Rory’s actions are exactly how my 9-year-old niece plays on my emotions (often when her parents don’t accede to her numerous requests). I know I shouldn’t cave in, but then, I have no kids and she is like the kid I don’t have so I give in. Only to kick my self in the butt later (figuratively of course!).
But when Rory grows older, you’ll miss those times. And I will miss those times with my niece when she grows up too. So I laugh and grit my teeth at the same time:) It works out in the end (I hope!)