I applaud your courage to share your views openly Emma. I am appalled at such behaviour from the men you have encountered and I empathise with yiyr situation. Not all men are like that, i assure you, but you are right - oppression and terror occurs when people deny other people’s reality. As was said so long ago, evil occurs when good men (and women) do nothing (paraphrase mine). Stand up, be proud and be loud for your convictions and the good you wish for will prevail.